What is your opinion about the upcoming Disney movie?

Tue, 02 Jun 2009 16:53:26 GMT

Why is it that people are making such a big deal about the black princess in the upcoming Disney movie falling in love with a non-black prince?

You didn't hear Native Americans complaining about Pocahontas choosing a white guy...Having a mixed couple on the screen is supposed to promote looking beyond skin color and judging by the content of one's character, yet people are making it all about race by shouting angrily at Disney and proclaiming that 'Disney just won't let a prince be black'. Doesn't anyone else see irony in this? To me, it's almost like proclaiming Disney is racist, while calling for promotion of self-segregation and avoidance of interracial dating.

Do you think people are right to be angry? Or do you think they are overreacting and tearing apart a movie that is just meant to be lighthearted and fun?

Saturday, March 14, 2009

Sat, 14 Mar 2009 16:37:43 GMT

Thank you all so much for your advice. I'll update you when things are more clear. Right now things are still kind of a mess :(

How do I choose between two guys? :/

Thu, 26 Feb 2009 06:57:59 GMT

I don't normally do this, but I need advice. I need it bad.

It's a time old dilemma: do you choose the guy who is crazy about you or the guy you're crazy about?

Let me back track. I have a guy I was recently involved with who is still head-over-heels in love with me. At the same time, my ex is back in the picture...(though in all honesty, I don't know if he ever left the picture).

GUY 1: He's crazy about me. As in would drive me home (ie eleven hours in a car!) just to spend more time with me crazy. You can tell he really means it when he tells me that I'm the most beautiful girl in the world to him. He's really sensitive, so he completely understands me whenever I am upset (I'm super, super oversensitive). He would do anything for me, drive twenty minutes away at three in the morning to buy me food if he thinks I'm hungry, surprise me with a gift when he knows I'm tired, etc. He refuses to let me walk around alone when it's dark and calls me just to make sure I get back to my dormitory safely. He's a hopeless romantic--likes giving his girl flowers, doesn't mind watching chick flicks to please her, always wants to take her out to nicer restaurants...money is not important, making me happy is. But before all the ladies reading this post swoon, let me get to the point. (And no, the catch is not that he is bad looking. He's definitely built.) The trouble is, he doesn't make me laugh. He's so sweet, but I can predict his jokes before he even finishes them. He talks like a tool around his friends (uses totally douchey vocab and makes immature jokes). And he isn't too popular on our campus after burning bridges with some people his freshmen year (he's a junior now though, but sadly people hold grudges). People tend to think of him as a little too self-pitying, moody, oversensitive, etc. While he doesn't pressure me sexually, he does have a high sex drive and is always getting turned on around me, making me feel flattered and at the same time a bit disappointed. After witnessing his behavior post break-up, my friends and I feel he's really clingy. He follows me around on campus, moping when I tell him that he needs to at least try to detach himself from me a little. He doesn't have too many close friends and would rather spend all his time with me...Still, I can't act like I haven't been tempted to get back together with him...but more on that in a second.

GUY 2: I dated him for two years, starting my freshmen year (I'm a senior now). He broke up with me during fall break (but still loved me, just didn't think I could see a future with him since he wanted kids and I wasn't sure, etc...oooh it's hard to explain! But just trust me, it hurt him too and he still loves me. It wasn't your typical break up where one person stops loving the other), but we then had chemistry during spring break and almost got back together (until I decided I needed to stay single and think about things). I was convinced I would never love anyone else as much. I'm still think I'm in love. We have the most amazing chemistry ever--he can always cheer me up. Our humor is on the exact same wavelength. We connect well intellectually. He always keeps me guessing. Unlike guy 1 who does a lot of TV watching and sports, guy 2 is really passionate about life, whether it's learning how to surf or playing the piano. He is always making his friends laugh (bonus: we are both in the same social circle, likely because we dated for so long) and is the most loyal friend anyone could ask for. I feel far more excited when talking to him. We're cute together, we have sooooooo many inside jokes and affectionate petnames for each other. When he looks at me, you can see pure affection in his eyes. And he has never pressured me to do anything physical with him. Still....while I don't doubt that he cares a lot about me, he shows his affection quite differently from guy 1. I don't want to discount guy 2. When we dated, he liked celebrating each month we had together. He likes to hide little notes for me or bring me breakfast in bed. Still...I know it's not fair to compare, but he definitely won't drop everything he's doing just to come be with me. He lets me walk back to my dormitory alone, even when it's really late at night. He seems to constantly find flaws in me, whereas guy 1 is almost opposite to an extreme--frustratingly finding me perfect. Guy 2 and I used to argue a lot, guy 1 and I almost never argued because he just wanted to make me happy.

My mom clearly thinks guy 1 is the better choice, since she thinks he treats me better and is clearly mad about me. However, I am the type of girl who kinda likes a bit more space and time alone/with friends. I have to admit I enjoy talking with guy 2 and being around him so much more. My mom argues that chemistry fades, and thus thinks a guy who treats me well should be valued more than one I like being around. I think while that may be true, I also cannot fathom being with someone who doesn't excite me.

Am I foolish to be throwing away guy 1? Guy 1 always makes sure that I feel beautiful...and as much as I like to be the proud, independent woman who insists on paying for my meals and acts tough, who doesn't like to be pampered every once in a while? At the same time, guy 1 seems a little too into me, to the point where it scares me because I can't really reciprocate all the time (giving gifts, wanting to be together) without feeling exhausted. Guy 2 makes me happier, but while he treats me really well, he definitely lacks some of the romantic devotion of guy 1. I'm not being spoiled, I'm just trying to figure out my needs in a relationship when I say that I wish guy 2 would prioritize me a little more sometimes or be willing to treat me more often. I feel like I'm willing to bend over backwards for him, and while I know he does a LOT for me, it definitely doesn't seem equal...

I know this sounds super ditzy, which is why I usually avoid venting my guy problems, but this is something I really need help with.

Have you had this experience before? How do you choose between the guy who cares just a little too much about you and the guy that you care about? Between comfort and passion?

{please don't just tell me they're both great and to flip a coin. i really do want advice!}

Thursday, February 26, 2009

Thu, 26 Feb 2009 06:11:52 GMT

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What is your opinion about the upcoming Disney movie?

Saturday, March 14, 2009

How do I choose between two guys? :/

Thursday, February 26, 2009